A Guide to the Perfect Wedding Toast


So you’ve been selected to be a maid of honor or a bridesmaid in a wedding –congratulations! You’ve made it through the wedding planning process, the dress fittings, the bachelorette planning, the bridal showers… you even made it down the aisle without a hitch. The final task is the wedding toast, which for some is the most nerve-wracking part. The truth is, it’s an incredible honor to be asked to stand up and toast at someone’s wedding, so don’t worry, you were invited to speak for a reason! Here are our tried and true tips for a perfect wedding speech, we promise, they never fail!

Step 1: Introduce yourself. While you might have known the bride since she was in diapers, don’t expect every other guest at the party does, so start by saying your name and how you know the couple.

Step 2: Make it personal. You’re obviously of incredible importance to at least one half of the couple, so talk about your relationship and what they mean to you. Be it a special story, a few of your favorite memories, or just some good old fashioned compliments, let them know you’re honored to be a part of their lives and a part of this very important day.

Step 3: Talk about the couple. Remember, you’re at a wedding, so make sure to dedicate a good part of your speech to the bride and groom! Say a few things you love about their relationship and some positive things they bring out in one another. Wish them a bright future and a beautiful life ahead.

Step 4: Be yourself. Some people think you should memorize your speech, while others swear by notecards. The truth is, do whatever makes you feel comfortable and at ease. If you don’t think you’re a particularly good storyteller, don’t feel pressure to tell a story! If you don’t like telling jokes, there is no need to try to make everyone laugh. The best speeches are the ones from the heart, so as long as you stay true to yourself and the love you have for the couple, your toast will be a huge and memorable success.

Step 5: Toast. Always remember to end by asking guests to raise their glasses and toast to the newlyweds. And then cheers, you’re done!

Article: Sarah Tolboe of Park & Grove | Photography: Heather Payne | Graphic: Hannah Lee