Writing Wedding Vows for the Groom

Last week we shared some tips with you on how to write your wedding vows, and this week we wanted to give the groom some specific advice on writing his vows, and Steve Moore of Sinclair & Moore is here to help:

When a groom sits down to write his wedding vows, it can be an overwhelming task. Because I had never been married before, I wasn’t even sure what I was fully getting myself into, so how could I just sit and write the biggest promises of my life? Despite how much I loved my bride, and how excited I was to get married, I had writer’s block. Because I just couldn’t put into words what my heart wanted to say, I opted to recite classic vows that were written hundreds of years ago. Although I don’t regret a thing from our wedding (other than not eating more food) I do think that if I had actually stopped, relaxed and been given a little bit of guidance, I would have loved to have written the vows I spoke to my bride that day. Hopefully the following ideas will make this process easier for you and give some structure to guide you through the process. 

There is an uncommon perception of what a vow really means. I have always thought of wedding vows as just a list of promises that define marriage: a promise to love… a promise to be faithful… to serve… to be committed until the end of life. And don’t get me wrong- weddings vows should include all of those things. The definition of vow, however, opens up the door to include so much more. The word vow definitely means to promise, pledge and commit, but it also means to affirm and to make a proclamation. Using this three-part definition as a guide will be help to simplify the process for any guy trying to write the wedding vows for him to say on his wedding. Let’s break it down even more.

Affirm: You are getting married because you find your partner to be amazing. Start identifying what those traits are that you adore. What are the things you love the most about your bride? Write them down. What are the things about her that make you laugh? What are the things that you find most beautiful about her? What are her strengths? What is she bringing to your marriage? How does she complete your life? Write all of these things down. Intentionally take the time on your wedding day to build up your spouse and publicly affirm her.  

Profess: To profess simply means to declare. Let the world stop spinning for just a moment, look her directly in the eyes, and simply tell her that you love her. Your wedding day is your opportunity to shout from the rooftops the depth of your love.  In front of your family and closest friends declare to her that there is no other woman who holds your heart. Sure, you have told her this a million times before, but this moment will be engrained in her memory for the rest of your lives. It will be a moment that she will return to throughout your marriage and it will carry her through times that may be more difficult.  

Promise: You will make no greater promise throughout your life than the covenant you will make to your wife on your wedding day. Don’t take this lightly. Promise carefully, and stick to promises that you can and intend to keep. I often hear people say things like “I promise to never go to bed angry” and “I promise to always laugh with you” and “I promise not to be selfish.” Great promises in concept, but those are promises you will likely break before the honeymoon is over. What lifelong promises can you commit to? Can you promise to love her unconditionally? Can you commit to sticking by her side through all of the ups and down that you will inevitably face? Will you serve her, and put her first? Will you stay faithful? Carefully think through what you want to promise to her, and then curate a list that will become the covenant you make with your bride.  

Remember, you don’t have to be Shakespeare or Robert Frost to write your own vows. Don’t get discouraged by not sounding eloquent enough. Be yourself, and write honest words from your heart; that is all your bride really wants to hear anyway. 

Photography: Rylee Hitchner | Graphic: Hannah Lee | Article: Steve Moore of Sinclair & Moore

Tags: , , ,

05.01.14 / Featured, Wedding Ideas Blog

Natural Spring Engagement Session Part 2

They may have been rained out on the first day of their engagement session, but they lucked out on their second shoot. How stunning is this couple, and once again, we love the simplicity of this natural engagement session. Don’t you just love all of the delicate details of spring that Kristen integrated into this shoot. We can’t wait to see more of this stunning couple later this year when they tie the knot!

Photography: Kristen Kilpatrick

Tags: , ,

04.30.14 / Featured, Real Weddings, Real Weddings Blog

Natural Spring Engagement Session Part 1

We wholeheartedly believe that simplicity is sometimes best- and engagement sessions are the perfect time to take advantage of this principle. We always love seeing engagement sessions that are a true representation of the love between the couple. You and your fiance will only be engaged once, so take some time to spend together and capture those precious moments before wedding madness begins. This absolutely breathtaking engagement session from Kristen Kilpatrick is the perfect example of a natural, and simple engagement session, and we hope you draw some wonderful inspiration from this lovely shoot.

Kristen started shooting this lovely engagement session with Victoria’s Secret model, Britt Maren, and her fiance one spring day, but after shooting for a little while, they were trapped in a torrential downpour! These stunning images are from right before the rain wiped them out, and later today, we’ll share even more magical and romantic shots from their follow up session the next day! Stay tuned…

Photography: Kristen Kilpatrick

Tags: , , , ,

04.30.14 / Featured, Real Weddings, Real Weddings Blog

Visit the Hilton Carlsbad Resort & Spa

We were recently guests at the Hilton Carlsbad Oceanfront Resort & Spa, in Carlsbad, CA, and were absolutely blown away by the property. There are several things about it that make it a dream location for a wedding—its proximity to the ocean (we’re talking right across the Coastal Highway from the Pacific Ocean with the most AMAZING views), the most absurdly talented Chef and kitchen staff, the beautiful, modern guest rooms, and a stunning ballroom (the hotel was just built 2 years ago). But there’s more that really struck us—despite the hotel’s chain namesake, it truly is a boutique hotel with the most amazing options to customize your stay. Whether you’re a California local or if you want to plan a destination wedding that’s still stateside, this intimate property just north of San Diego should be at the top of your list when it comes to finding the perfect venue.

So with that in mind, we decided to take the difficulty out of wedding planning for you, and we planned you a 3 day wedding weekend! 

Day 1: 

Welcome! Treat your guests upon their arrival with a welcome package waiting in their rooms. Suggested treats? The Chef’s own French macaroons or field-fresh strawberries (both of which we had the palatable pleasure of tasting for ourselves!). After you’ve settled in, the Hilton Carlsbad Oceanfront staff are amazing at dreaming up the most creative and fun activities for groups. My favorite? A salsa and guacamole class—up the ante with a contest to see whose recipe wins. Then, cocktails await at the outdoor Fire Lounge, followed by a specialty custom dinner with wine pairings at Chandler’s Restaurant, the hotel restaurant that is a favorite among locals. Could the night end on a tastier note?

Day 2: Wedding Day!

Set a relaxing tone for the morning with a group yoga session, and then host a group brunch for the wedding guests followed by a relaxing afternoon pool-side or oceanfront while you and your bridesmaids hit the Hilton Carlsbad Oceanfront spa. I’ll tell you from experience that this is one AWESOME spa—plus, 85% of the products they use are natural-based or organic! The men can hit the links at one of several nearby PGA courses.

Start the wedding with a beachfront photo session and an intimate ocean-view ceremony set on the flagstone terrace or in the garden, and after outdoor cocktails, move into the new, elegantly appointed ballroom for dinner and dancing.

Day 3:

Thank your guests for spending the weekend to celebrate your union with a farewell brunch. Whether a traditional buffet or a smoothie and yogurt parfait combo, this is a great time to open gifts, reflect on the past evening, and spend a little more time with your loved ones.

Do you have time to stay longer? Well, your guests can enjoy, plenty of water activities like fishing, surfing, whale watching and other water sports. Or they can plan family friendly day trips to LEGOLAND California, Sea World, the San Diego Zoo and Safari Park, Disneyland California! They can also go for some fun tours – we recommend the Gemological Institute of America for something a little more educational, or if you’re the outdoorsy type, a day at one of the local flower farms! And for those guests looking to explore a bit more, suggest they take a day trip up and down the coast to any of the many small but amazing towns with great shopping, dining, and nightlife.

Thanks again to the Hilton Carlsbad for inviting us to visit, and we hope you consider their amazing boutique hotel for your destination wedding!

Graphic: Hannah Lee

Tags: , ,

04.30.14 / Featured, New Sponsor Blog