How to Say No to Being a Bridesmaid

There’s excitement all around when one of your closest friends gets engaged! The wedding planning begins, and when it comes to choosing her bridesmaids, you’re now the one being popped the question. Although you’re honored to be a part of her big day, you’re not sure you want to say yes for several different reasons. Whether it be finances, time, or other personal reasons, here are a few ways to graciously decline:

Offer a different way of support: You may not be able to devote as much time as a bridesmaid would, but you could offer to attend a meeting with the florist or bakery to help with decision-making. Another way of being valuable to the wedding is offering to be a guestbook attendant or greeter. Sometimes brides forget about this aspect and even the bridesmaids will appreciate not having to run around and direct guests so they fully attend to the bride.

Decline Early On: There is no reason to lead her on or keep her hanging. If you know you can’t be a bridesmaid, the only courteous thing for you to do is to let the bride know your decision as soon as possible. That way, she’ll have enough time to ask someone else if she chooses.

Be Sincere: All wedding stuff aside, your relationship is important and honesty is the best policy. Express your gratitude at being asked, but be sincere with her about your decision. You don’t want to be the resentful bridesmaid that brings the mood down. Remember why she asked you to be a part of such an important day in her life. As a true friend, she will understand your decision and appreciate your honesty.

Article by Linda Whitten of Wedfully Yours

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10.16.14 / Featured, Wedding Ideas, Wedding Ideas Blog

Elegant California Beach Engagement

We simply adore this lovely engagement session from MK Sadler! You can sense the love between Drew and Sarah, and their story is even more adorable than this shoot.

More from the Couple:

Drew and Sarah met at the University of Southern California almost eight years ago when she was eighteen and he was twenty. Sarah was studying art and Drew was on the Water Polo team with many of her good friends from high school. At this point, they had only spent a handful of occasions together with mutual friends. After Sarah moved into the dorms it became apparent that the majority of her friends had either not moved in or were home on break before school started. After many failed attempts at finding someone who was in town it was ultimately Drew’s sense of humor that made Sarah call him. When Drew answered, Sarah asked if he was around and wanted to have dinner. She would later find out that Drew already had a major crush on her prior to this call. He said that he was on his way and would be there shortly. She had no clue that Drew was taking family photos at the time and had left early to come meet her. When he arrived, they went out on their first date and three weeks later Drew’s charm and a little bit of luck had won Sarah’s heart. Sarah can safely say that although Drew was not her first call that night, it was definitely the best call she had ever made.

From Sarah:

“Doing this photo shoot with Meghan Sadler was absolutely amazing. Drew and I have always operated on a frequency that allows us to understand each other without speaking. After looking at our engagement photos we realized that Meghan had captured all of these subtleties that make our relationship so special. She is truly an amazing photographer and we are so excited to have her document our big day! “

Sarah and Drew currently live in Orange County. She is a Graphic Designer at a publishing company in Costa Mesa and he is currently the Finance Manager at an industrial hardware supply company in Long Beach.

Photography: M.K. Sadler | Sarah’s white dress: Zara | Drew’s shirt and pants: H&M

 

 

10.15.14 / Featured, Real Weddings, Real Weddings Blog, Wedding Ideas, Wedding Ideas Blog

Mexican-Inspired Wedding Ideas

We loved sharing some desert wedding inspiration from Kylie Swanson yesterday, and today we’re excited to share some ideas from Kylie on how to translate that Mexican style into wedding decor. We love the use of color and texture that Kylie and Bows and Arrows put together to create this lush tablescape, and we’d love to see more bride embrace a rich and daring color palette like this!

Creative Direction + Styling: Kylie Swanson | Florals + Styling: Alicia Rico of Bows and Arrows | Photography: Brett Heidebrecht | Gown: Rue de Seine courtesy of The Dress Theory | Makeup and Hair: Tracy Melton Artistry | Calligraphy:Lauren Essl of Blue Eye Brown Eye | Cake: Cakewalk Bake Shop

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10.14.14 / Featured, Real Weddings, Real Weddings Blog, Wedding Ideas, Wedding Ideas Blog

Dramatic Desert Wedding Inspiration

Sometimes simplicity and keeping details to a minimum makes a more dramatic statement than something overly styled. Kylie Swanson worked with Brett Heidebrecht to highlight this absolutely stunning Rue de Seine wedding gown and adorned it with dramatic florals from Bows and Arrows.

From Kylie:

The inspiration behind this shoot was the simple beauty found throughout the shores of Mexico’s breathtaking coast. The calm blue waters, the rich colors of Spanish culture, & the many textures you’d find hidden amongst the country’s beautiful architecture caused a stirring in my heart & influenced the design behind every detail of the day.

We’re excited to share more inspiration from Brett and Kylie tomorrow so be sure to come back!
Creative Direction + Styling: Kylie Swanson | Florals + Styling: Alicia Rico of Bows and Arrows | Photography: Brett Heidebrecht | Gown: Rue de Seine courtesy of The Dress Theory | Makeup and Hair: Tracy Melton Artistry | Calligraphy: Lauren Essl of Blue Eye Brown Eye | Cake: Cakewalk Bake Shop

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10.13.14 / Featured, Real Weddings, Real Weddings Blog, Wedding Ideas, Wedding Ideas Blog